7 Ways To Prove You're Actually
Real On Myspace (Part 1) by Passionate Ben
We've all received emails from people on Myspace or other online dating websites
that ask the simple and straightforward questions...
"Are you real?"
"Do you really look like your pictures?"
"Are you really how you state on your profile?"
I have been getting more and more of these emails from my women talk radio show
subscribers that constantly complain about getting emails from guys like this.
These women get offended and pissed off, and I know many women that have
responded just like this to me!
In all honestly you shouldn't. Because you, not the people responding to you are
putting that doubt, leeriness, misconception, and too-good-to-be-true thinking
in their little heads. This is honestly one of the first things I ask a lot of
times online; I have been burnt royally many times by dishonest and twisted
women that are pathological liars.
And spawns of the devil!
Well, I don't know officially that they were spawns of the devil - just
assuming!
Many web sites, especially Myspace, make it so this doesn't ever have to be the
case. You can do so many things to assure people that you really look the way
your pictures are presented, and the way you really think and act is really the
God's honest truth.
Over the last 2 ½ years I have been on more online dating sites than anyone in
the world researching on over 35 different online dating and social networking
sites. I have compiled a list of the 7 things you can do on Myspace or on other
online dating sites to prove you're real.
Some dating sites don't allow you to do some of things I suggest, so the lion's
share of this list is targeted specifically for Myspace profiles.
Step 1
Have some non-professional pictures of yourself doing activities you love,
pictures of your family, friends, or pets on your main pictures area. First off,
I need to clarify this point: you definitely should have professional pictures
of yourself online!
I feel if you're serious about marketing yourself online to find cool new people
to hang out with or get to know, then you always want to put your best foot
forward and look your best.
And that's not shallow; that's just common sense. Regardless of what you think,
believe, or feel. Looks matter a lot to people, and sex sells in this society!
You can bury your head in the sand, pout, bitch, moan, groan, complain, swear,
or even go postal and kill people, (Just please make sure I'm not in that part
of town when you do that ok!) say how unfair it is, join a cult, shave off all
your hair, go gothic, or whatever you want to do or say to deal with your issues
about society and the way the world is in regards to physical beauty!
But that's how it is and always will be I imagine. It's been that way since the
caveman days, and it hasn't changed a whole lot since then! They have even
proven scientifically that people actually think better looking people are
generally smarter than people that aren't as physically attractive!
I said some professional pictures, not all, huge difference. People want to see
the real you, imperfections and all. I got some late breaking news, you're not
perfect and never going to be so stop trying to give the impression you are
physically to the world!
When all (not some) you have is professional perfect pictures of yourself on
your profile you come across to other people as extremely insecure, self
absorbed, and people normally think you're using fake pictures of someone else!
No self respecting real man or women wants to be with some trophy bimbo or mimbo
(male model/body builder air head!) that is so obsessed with their physical
appearance, image, and themselves. Reason being is simple mathematics really.
If 100% of your time, energy, mind, and heart are put into yourself, image, and
your physical appearance. Guess what...You have 0% of yourself to give to
someone else or accept of someone else!! Unless of course the other person is
exactly that way, then it's a perfect "shallow as a mud puddle" couple.
I have been burnt many times. Believe me, great lighting, make up, and a great
photographer can make a dog look like Pamela Anderson! Be honest about how you
look, and just throw at least a few non-professional pictures up, ok.
Step 2
Write a meaningful and thought-out profile about yourself, what you like,
dislike, loves, hopes, aspirations, dreams, turn-on, turn-offs, etc.
I have seen meatier anorexia models than most people's profiles and what they
write or don't write about themselves online! Do you want to know why most
people don't say crap on their profiles? Shhh...it's a secret.
Because they have nothing or next to nothing to say; they don't know who they
are or what they want for themselves and in others. They have very little
between their ears, so they fling up their glamour shots and wait for the same
cookie-cutter, dime-a- dozen, drooling uncontrollably, and unoriginal person
around the world to make sexual comments and remarks based solely on their
physical pictures.
They have very little else to offer a person, so all they can do is put up as
many pictures as they can and write next to nothing on their profiles. This
obviously feeds and strokes their huge egos that are the size of P.Diddy, Paris
Hilton, Donald Trump, Shaquille O'Neil, and all the rap artists in the world
combined!
Keep your eyes peeled for part two of this article with steps 3-7.
About the Author :
Passionate Ben is an online dating researcher who has been on more online dating
websites than ANYONE in the world! 35 different dating websites! For a limited
time you can download the FREE report called, "Open Your Eyes Already About
Online Dating."
http://www.passionateben.com
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