Online Dating Tips--Don't Fall in Love with Online Dating
by Stella Larue
Cyber dating has been stigmatized
for a long time. In the past, dating sites were seen as arenas for the desperate
and lonely. Now, though, it has broken out...become mainstream, an acceptable
way for busy singles to meet others. Everybody's doing it! Some sources claim
that over 40% of all single American adults (or 50 million) have tried internet
dating.
So, just by the sheer numbers involved, there's sure to be a lot of quality
people on these dating sites. And the vast majority of them are just as nice,
curious, open, vulnerable, and date-less as you. So approach fellow online
daters with compassion and a sense of humor.
Cyber dating may well be a viable option for you, if you go into it with the
right attitude. Realize up front that online dating is simply a temporary,
convenient, superficial way to be introduced to a lot of other singles in a
short period of time...That's all it is! And always remember that the computer
sitting on your desktop or lap is only a PLASTIC BOX. The internet is wild and
wonderful, and has piped into our homes an amazing, colorful world. There's an
almost magical quality to it, isn't there? And there's a tendency to think it
can work magic for us, too. Well, it can't! It's only a piece of hardware.
Your computer will not magically turn you into a popular, confident social
animal. Do not look at the internet as your "Great white hope" in finding your
soulmate. If you go into it with that kind of attitude, you will surely fail!
Instead, think of online dating as simply a means of introduction. Try it for a
limited time, and make it one small part of your social life. And remember that
once you get past the introduction, and meet face-to-face, you are back at
square one, in the old-fashioned dating game. What is the main advantage of
online dating? Anonymity. The anonymity of online encounters lets you get your
foot in the door, when otherwise; you might have just been passed by in real
life. A potential date is forced to talk to you instead of rejecting you quickly
on a superficial physical level. Anonymity also makes shy people bold! It's easy
to flirt in cyberspace, and seductive in its own right. It temporarily banishes
loneliness, and you can get addicted to it. The trouble is, it's not real. You
aren't really flirting, you know? You can't kiss through the modem.
Online dating is only a means to an end, which is to find a suitable dating
partner. Don't get caught up in the e-dating lifestyle permanently. Get beyond
the email stage as soon as mutual interest is clear. And no matter how
emotionally involved you may feel, remember, it is not possible to fall in love
with someone you've never met!
There's simply no way to know if the chemistry is there without a face-to-face
encounter. So it's foolish to let an online "romance" go on and on without
meeting. Lots of emotional investment at risk, and possibly a lot of time
wasted, too.
Get on the phone... get a real date... and you're on your way!
About the Author:
Stella Larue is the "gangleader"
of a small group of women who have put together an innovative and interesting
website,
Findlove-Keeplove.com.
This site provides a plan-- and supplies all the tools, free of charge-- to help
you find true love and keep it safe forever .
Source of article:
www.goarticles.com
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